RE-BRANDING

RE-BRANDING. Re-structuring,Changing for better. Barbie term- A MAKEOVER :) I hope the new look,new name, new theme will do. It has taken a lot to get here and will certainly take a lot more to move uphill from here. Barbieblogs are meant for you... and beware... she's coming on strong! x.o.x.o THEALPHABARBIE

STROKE YOUR MAN'S EGO!

 I boarded a public service vehicle to Nairobi and next to me sat a middle aged married couple. The woman looked more vibrant, had a fancy weave on and a ready made lady's suit. Her husband looked rather tired and older, and wore a heavy jacket and brown material pants and had a cranky voice. We had traveled quite a distance and as is customary of Nairobi’s public transport, the Matatu, it was time to pay fare. The lady pried around, pretending she was not up to anything, then pulled out her wallet and very fast, took out a note of money. She quickly folded the note into a very small size then took her husband’s hand and gave it to him to pay! Was that necessary? I thought to myself. The woman should have just given the note to the conductor and paid their fare. No one is really attentive on who's handing out the money and why! 

It was necessary. Massaging a man's ego gives him the impression that he is still in charge and that you respect him enough to let him call the shots. It is important that you let your man, once in a while, do the big stuff even when you are the bread winner. Taking all the bills and making every other critical decision makes your man feel emasculated and you might not know until he bursts out on you one day! 

As a lady, sometimes it feels good to pay the cheques. :) It does! An independent woman is the in thing. We want to feel in control and not under men's feet. We like it when our men ask us for money. We want to sneak in our money in the receipt wallet on a date before our spouses do. We want a better and more expensive car than our spouses. We want to rock the latest outfits and change hairstyles everyday with no man behind it. We want to surprise our husbands with a Bugatti on the drive way... JUST. LIKE. BEYONCE. We want to buy the children a bigger toy than our husband did, just to get that feel. And after doing all that, we go like “Oh! Don’t worry. It’s nothing.” We like it!

Ladies, you have to learn to let go off the good feeling. Feminism is on the rise and the man has become an endangered species. As much as you want to make a bold statement that you are in charge, make your man feel as important and the boss as well. I will share with you a few ways to stroke your man's ego without making him feel as if you are doing him a favor. That was intended! Sometimes we have a pity treat for our spouses, but this one is meant to be for real. These valuable lessons are only to be used by those with good intentions. Consider this an art form that has been lost in this generation and one of the most wonderful things you can do to your man.

1.Respect him. 

You cannot stroke your man's ego if you don't have respect for him.

Unfortunately, couples often fall into a rut where they start taking each other for granted and don't give each other the respect they deserve or once had for each other. Ladies, change that immediately! Think of at least, five things you truly respect about your man, even small things like, he arrives home in time for dinner, and tell him each of those things.

I know you don't like this second point but please ladies...

2.Don't argue with him. 

Men don't like it when their women argue with them. It's one thing to respectfully disagree, but to engage in all out warfare over differing opinions is annoying and unnecessary. 

Come to think of all the arguments you have had with your spouse. You have to come to a point of agreeing to disagree in a calm manner for the contentious issue to be solved. Right? You have the answer!

3.Compliment his masculine qualities.

It's just not enough to tell him he's hot or he's cute but really go all out there! Tell him how you love his muscles, how sexy he looks when he's lifting weights, how athletic he is, etc. Also, compliment his intelligence. Chances are you're with an intelligent guy, so tell him!

4.Thank him for how hard he works to make you happy.

Tell him how much you appreciate what he does for you.Even little things that you think he "should" do! Like planning your vacations and outings, mowing the grass or fixing a leaking pipe. Sincerely thank him for all his efforts, big or small, to make you happy.

5.Wait on him. 

After he's come home from a long day at work or school, let him relax a bit. Offer to fix him a drink or cook or order in his favorite meal. Let him watch the ball game without interruption. Massage his back or shoulders without expecting anything in return.This works magic! It's like a home made spa for your man. Don't bug him with your suspicions or suspended complaints or else you will have a fiery argument! That, i guarantee.

6.Be affectionate. 

Men generally love affection because it makes them feel loved. Hug him, kiss him passionately, rub his shoulders, stroke his hair, etc. Do anything you know would make him feel loved.

7.Praise him in front of other people and NEVER put him down.

The next time you're out with your group of friends, tell him how sexy he is or congratulate him thoroughly on something he did at work. I thought this was just a public fiasco, but it truly works and men HATE public humiliation especially by their own women. He wants to know that his girl is proud of him and his accomplishments.

8.Stroke more than just his ego. 

Sex is a wonderful way for a couple to connect with one another and feel close.Have sex with him often and tell him what an amazing lover he is. Nothing makes a man feel better about his girl and his relationship than an active, healthy sex life. I mean, show me a man who does not love sex!

Girl, you are good to go with this booster kit! Start by trying to list down five unique things you mostly love about your man and find your way to appreciating your man even more than you used to.

Do men stroke women's egos? Keep in touch for side B of the woman's ego. 

Hate to leave you,

Estelle.

Job hunting...

The reason am always on and off is because i have been killing my feet with pain from walking around Nairobi dropping applications for internships.  What is the perfect cv? Is there such a thing or does a cv mature with time? Frankly, my cv feels empty. I have never had a job in my entire life and now that i am looking for one... well.... more or less.. it feels like i have to really do something once i get employed to fill it up. By that i don't mean serving tea * no pun intended*... i mean real applausible stuff ! Sometimes i even feel like throwing in some other neftty little acheivements i have made here and there then i remember... be precise and this is official.. once you get employed you can floss about it to your fellow employees... which is a bad idea.

Word of encouragement.... do not compare cv's! You love your heart so much you don't need a heart attack... just work towards building your own. :)

Love, Estelle.

am back!!

I am excited as you have been anticipating to hear about my weekend! I sure hope you enjoyed your weekend as well. As you can see, i came back with alot of zest and a fresh mind... starting off with ....*drumbeats*.... The new look Wonder Land!...*Applause*... Isn't it fantastic? I hope you find it more exciting than the previous look. I have tried to mix up the colors not to look too girly yet be attractive to the guys too! I am open to suggestions and what you think about the new look Wonder Land. I hope the mobile version of wonder Land is helping out too. You can now blog at the conveniency of your phone! Stay alert for word about my whereabouts during the long weekend. *wink*

Lots of love and take care!

Estelle.

LOVING...YET LEAVING YOU...

Oh wonderful wonderlandiers... i am afraid u will not be reading any posts from me these next two days. I am out for an adventure and when i come back... i will have more greater stuff for Wonder Land. I hope you will keep posting your ideas though... keep in touch and tell as many friends as you can about Wonder Land.....

 You can imajine it.... Create it!!

Love, Estelle

THE LUNCH BOX PHENOMENON...

The 'Plastics' section of the supermarket goes unoticed, it's probably one of the isle you can never forget. Filled with colorfull dishes, the cute plastic spoons, the plastic plates.... probably makes you feel like you are in a grown-up's toy shop :)!  The LUNCH BOX, one most colorful and unforgettable piece of the plastic family...

 Here it comes... Ladies, please learn to accersorise your colours!! The moment you wear chunky,dangling Pink and green earrings with a luminous green top and hot pink tights!! You are tripping into the lunchbox world! Bold colors are back and they make you look vibrant but overdoing it...makes you look outlandish. 

Here are some few tips on creatively accesorizing bold colors... and looking fabulous!

1. Never use more than a three color combination..... you'll shift to the lunchbox world!

2.Use one color as a toner, that blends in with the other colors and still looks good.

3.Use colors that can match up in a color wheel... it would help having a color wheel by your dressing mirror..*)

4. If you've colored your hair, tone down the colors.. especially if you have a dark complexion.

 Sometimes.... jewellery does the trick! A lady knows her jewellery... she can pick it out in the dark. Pair dark colored bracelets with light colored clothing, and vice versa. It's not necessary to match. Start with your ears. Find the perfect color of earrings to accesorize with the bold colors.Fancy colored bracelets always look beautiful, mix a few colors and see the majic! Choose colorful necklaces with big beads.. preferably wooden or seed... bold jewellery goes with bold colors.

Looking your best is not all about buying expensive clothes. If you want to look stylish, think about accessorizing..... you are on your way to becoming.... the next most creative Ex-lunchbox..!  :)

Love, Estelle.

IT AIN'T ALWAYS THAT EASY!!

For the past few hours... i had been trying to creatively customize Wonder Land. Yes! Hours! 3 hours to be precise. I still hadn't got what i wanted! Creativity takes patience; you'll try and try and when you think you have it... bang!! It hits you right on the face that you are not even close to the results you are expecting. I  found a temporary template, it's pretty i bet... but it is not what i want. Not even close. I just put it there for the colour preference and because i could'nt live with the previous template another second. Creative minds are sometimes perfectionists.... don't give up until you get what you really want. 

Love, Estelle.